This thought has troubled me, for long.
What’s easier, to forgive, or to forget??
To forgive is a trait of a really strong person, someone who is willing to choose themselves, and not you.It takes a lot of courage to forgive someone for what they did, and to ignore the fact that it has hurt you a li’l bit, and still welcome them into your world with warm hearts and open arms.
Still expecting them not to hurt you; but the truth is, every time they hurt you, you love them a li’l less, and then there is this threshold beyond which you can’t just give them any love, not even a wee bit. After all the forgiveness that you have served them with, the love finally vanishes in thin air, before you even know it. And you are left with nothing but emptiness towards them, you basically just feel nothing. Nothing at all.
Do we forget them, then?
Can we really forget someone we shared our smiles with, our cries, sorrows, and every part of our day eagerly?
The truth is, we never forget totally, we just forgive them to make it easier for us to move on, when it really pains to hold onto them, when you can’t take it anymore, when you are done punishing yourself for their mistakes, and finally you take hold of your life, or atleast when you try to.
They still linger in our subconscious mind, dwelling in with our dark chambers of discarded, waste thoughts.
It’s just the new memories that form, and the new people that we meet, who keeps them at bay, making them invisible during the day, but, as the night descends, sometimes nothing can stop them from flowing into our thoughts and bundling us up into a curl ball in our beds. We kind of kewp revisiting that stage.
As the time flies, it might feel easier, but it’s always the same, it’s just your threshold to bear the pain their memories give, that has improvised and adapted to the hurt they cause.
-Aahilic Aish
So, does it really matter, whether to forgive them, or forget them? what’s more important is, to learn the lessons, and move on with the basics of life, to start with. 🌟
-AahilicAish
Aahilic Aish 