I have lately had time to ponder on things. I must say though, the thoughts I have when I am angry or pissed at something, or someone are way more factually correct, than when I am sane.
My dad always said, “If given a choice between marrying the person you love, and the person who loves you, choose the one who loves you. For the one you love may/not love you back, or care for you, or reciprocate at all. On the other hand, the person who loves you truly, will not just care but respect, and love you in ways unimagined. And on staying neutral, someday you will fall for them too.”
Fast forward to today’s scenario, and I notice most people falling in love with those who don’t love them back. And those people who don’t love these back, in turn, fall for some other 3rd person who are emotionally unavailable for them.
Re-read. Let that sink in.
This vicious cycle continues, producing more and more emotionally drained, and emotionally unavailable ‘deads’ as I’d like to call them.
When, or rather How did Loving Someone get so Hard?
What is the solution? How does the cycle break?
You’ll find me constantly wondering (or rather overthinking) this, these days.
-Aahilic Aish
Aahilic Aish 